I have noticed a trend that permeates our society. Everywhere you see articles on how to “Get a Man.” Women talk about it, they read books about it; there are celebrities and non-famous people who seem to focus their whole life around being the kind of woman a man allegedly wants. They act like someone they are not because they think it is better than being alone.
There are a few reasons that’s not a good idea. First, I doubt they work. They also often contradict each other. Who hasn’t tried some of their tips and ended up looking ridiculous?Who wants to play games? You may never know if that person would have been interested in you otherwise. Personally, I want a passionate perusal, not for a man just to fall in my trap. There is also the issue of what kind of man do they think they are attracting. If you get your dating advice from certain magazines, the raunchy ones, you may not attract the kind of man you want. They are selling the sex=love myth. There is A LOT more to love than a man wanting to sleep with you, and men do not fall in love with sex. In addition, if you use games and manipulation to attract a man he may be a game player himself. Do you want a man that wants to manipulate, whose okay with people acting like something they are not to get into a relationship? If so, he will probably just tell you whatever you want to hear. Getting in a relationship with someone when neither of you really knows each other can set you up for a world of trouble.
When I was younger I believed those myths, I haven’t always respected myself when it comes to significant or not-so significant others. But we are all precious and deserve to treat ourselves with respect and only be with a significant other who’s going to respect us.
